Gone are the days when men brought home the bacon and she fried it up. Today’s woman is a force to be reckoned with and many women can hold their own in every facet of life. Recently a friend of mine’s told me I needed a male version of myself, which I laughed at because it couldn’t be further from the truth. We usually tend to want the total opposite in most cases.
I’ve also been told that in order to find the right man, I would probably need to not expect the man who would be with me to be as ambitious as me, because in their words “men are simple creatures, they find their lot in life and that’s it”. I laughed at that too. So everybody has an opinion on this particular subject. There is a stereotype out there that exists that says most men seem to either feel intimidated or confused about what to do with a woman who has everything going on. Based on my experiences its partly true. I’ve heard it all.
So here’s what I know, I didn’t come into this world with success, I worked hard for it, sacrificed and applied my time and effort and that is something that I can own for myself and take pride in. I did not do any of those things to be in some exclusive group of successful women who would be treated differently by the opposite sex because of my accomplishments. Having dated men who were on the same level and some not it didn’t matter what social class anybody had. Relationships all go through the same modes of operation. The only differences being the confidence level of the guy who approached me and the guy that didn’t.
The truth of the matter is this whether you’re woman has a Harvard Degree, a PHD, a MBA or she is the CEO of her own company at the end of the day she is a woman. A woman who needs validation, love, respect, a woman who has insecurities, a woman who feels the same emotions that you do. She is not some unique creature that needs to be treated any differently than the woman who does not have all those fancy degrees. I won’t say that a woman with that standing does not have a certain confidence level that threatens her need to keep you around, because she does have the ability to stand on her own. But she shouldn’t be punished for being successful or viewed as unlovable or even unreachable by what some may call an average joe type of guy. If you are a strong man and confident with who you are then you would not be intimidated by a successful woman.
So if you are currently dating someone and find there is a big imbalance in incomes, or social classes the best thing you can do is to be real with who you are and be comfortable in your own skin and what you do bring to the table. Having success and money and a certain social standing still don’t keep you warm at night the last time I checked.
I have experienced both ends of the spectrum and at the end of the day we are all looking for someone to love us just as we are. So the next time you think she’s out of your league, give it a shot anyway, let your confidence shine through and I will bet she will pay attention. Good Luck and Happy dating.
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